“Bombardati dai mass media, i bambini imparano ad osservare il lato peggiore della vita, gli vengono proposti modelli impossibili e irraggiungibili, e comportamenti più stupidi e incredibili, e questo impedisce una buona crescita.
Pubblicità quotidiane prodotte da menti malate, spot pubblicitari assurdi, mostrano vite impossibili e comportamenti idioti, bambocci e Barbie, “fighi” di plastica e “fighe” di plastica, il modello mentale di persone che vivono solo per gli oggetti e l’apparenza, in vite arredate di altrettanta plastica e falsità.
I messaggi che nascondono sono tanti. Ti dicono sottilmente che non sei adeguato, cercano di insinuare in te una tensione, un impulso a comprare o imitare, per poi tornare a sentirti povero come prima dopo qualche ora, o qualche giorno. La vita vera è altro. Spezza questa catena.
Allora, esiste il momento sacro, in cui, da adulti, possiamo renderci conto delle menzogne che ci hanno contornato e cercare una nostra via personale verso la verità e verso la pulizia mentale.
Possiamo capire che siamo stati sottoposti ad una “dieta comunicazionale” fatta di abbondanza di messaggi deviati e falsi. Solo allora possiamo e dobbiamo riprendere le redini della nostra “dieta comunicazionale”, e scegliere cosa vogliamo imparare e conoscere”. Daniele Trevisani dal testo Personal Energy – http://amzn.to/2xoIg6I
Ogni persona può fare incursioni fuori dalla zona di comfort, fino alla zona di sfida. L’over-reaching è per pochi e richiede un supporto di coach preparatissimi.
È necessario evitare di esporre all’elaborazione mentale una mole eccessiva di dati o problematiche (sovraccarico o overload), a meno che non si tratti di una precisa strategia allenante di sovraccarico intenzionale (overreaching), che va ingegnerizzata e non deve accadere nella normalità.
L’esigenza di disporre di un metodo ha portato i miei interventi a costruire un principio generale aperto, un metodo interdisciplinare di Regie di Cambiamento™, che comprende sotto-modelli come lo Human Performance Model (HPM), metodi sviluppato nelle nostre esperienze di ricerca e di coaching per dare struttura consistenza ai percorsi di crescita personale e/o organizzativa.
Nel progetto sulle Regie di Cambiamento sono stati inquadrati diversi tipi di stimolazione formativa, che corrispondono a spazi di azione in cui le persone si muovono:
Figura 9 – Zone stimolo e gli effetti sul potenziale personale
In questa sede vogliamo esaminare il rapporto tra le zone e l’ingegneria dell’apprendimento (Learning Experience Engineering).
Il compito delle azioni di sviluppo del potenziale è allargare la zona operativa e accedere con nuove risorse alla zona che prima era proibita. Il senso sottostante non è quello di trasformare un essere umano in un robot privo di emozioni, ma di permettergli di essere ciò che può essere rimuovendo ostacoli e barriere, e accedendo pienamente alle sue risorse non ancora coltivate e trasformate in energie disponibili.
Una larga parte degli esseri umani ha il potenziale fisico, alla nascita, di arrivare a livelli atletici olimpionici, o ricercatori eccellenti, se il potenziale viene coltivato, e lo stesso soggetto potrà invece ridursi in condizioni di quasi totale abulia in condizioni diverse e negative.
Anche sul piano intellettuale, una stragrande maggioranza degli esseri umani che vedono la luce sul pianeta ha la possibilità e le basi genetiche per avvicinarsi a livelli di pensiero ed umanistici molto elevati, ad esempio laurearsi e pluri-laurearsi, essere creativi, sviluppare pensiero strategico e problem-solving di alto livello.
Una piccola frazione di persone tuttavia vi riesce, largamente a causa del clima psicologico che incontra, favorevole o sfavorevole all’autoespressione e alla crescita. Questi blocchi diventano poi auto-convinzioni, ed il circolo si chiude a spirale in un crescendo di auto-impoverimento.
Il ruolo di un professionista del potenziale umano consiste soprattutto nel costruire il clima psicologico adeguato allo sviluppo di sé, e orchestrare azioni stimolo entro una ingegneria degli stimoli che tocchi tutte le aree della crescita personale e professionale.
La noia, non subita ma adeguatamente “ingegnerizzata”, può essere utilizzata per fasi di “scarico” o recupero, la zona di comfort è utile per consolidare competenze, la zona di sfida per “produrre adrenalina”, stimolare e aumentare l’acquisizione di nuove risorse, la zona di over-reaching è utile per fare i conti con se stessi e la realtà, capire dove sono i limiti, fare “stretching” e “incursioni guidate” su aree prima proibite, ampliare gli orizzonti. Farlo senza un coaching professionale, tuttavia, significa solo farsi del male, a volte peggio. Per cui, quando fate incursioni oltre la zona del limite, abbiate sempre il coraggio di farvi aiutare. Questo è il supremo coraggio.
A brief video on the Exa-Leadership Model, the 6 Stages of Leadership, by the Italian Author and Consultant Dr. Daniele Trevisani, from the book “Semiotics for Leaders“, with English subtitles
Transcript of the Lesson on Leadership, by Dr. Daniele Trevisani
held at the Master in Coaching & Counseling STEP, 2015
Well, let’s start with this second module of the morning
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Theme: Communication and Leadership
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Our Master Lecture on Leadership
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Leadership is a very broad and wide concept
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We can say that generally Leadership is the ability to “drive people” (but there are several ways in doing it)
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Some interpret Leadership in a way that we can call “Primal Leadership” mode (Level 1 of the Exa-Leadership Model)
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the “Leadership of the Leader of the Tribe” or Leader of the Pack
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The Alpha Male, or the Alpha Female
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That is to say: Who is stronger, leads
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In this modality, the position of Leader is acquired by fighting
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and is held and kept by fighting, since there is always someone that wants to get it, to grab it, to steal it, ok?
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I refer to this, in the HPM Model, as “Primal Leadership”
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Second modality of viewing Leadership is a Psychoenergetic Leadership (Level 2 of the Exa-Leadership Model)
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That is, the superiority of Mental Energies
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I like an example, Stephen Hawking, that is a leader in the field of Astrophysics
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one of several leaders, an incredibly charismatic person,
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he did incredible things,
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he revolutionized the world of Physics
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but he is paralyzed.
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We cannot talk in this case of a Primal Leadership,
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it’s not his body the source of inspiration for people, it’s his Mind
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and mainly his capacity to continue working
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in conditions in which 99.99% of other people would have quit
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and would have quit not only today, but tens of years ago.
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So, there is also a Leadership on the front of the Motivational Side.
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The capacity to motivate themselves and auto-motivate others.
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Than we have a third level of leadership, the Leadership of the Specialist (Level 3, Micro-Leadership Level in the Exa-Leadership Model)
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So, if we have on example a Surgical Operating Room within a Hospital
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you would see that in a Surgical Operating Room there is a specific time-frame that we can identify as “Leadership of the Anesthesiologist”,
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in other words, the best in the team in doing anesthesia, leads. He drives the action.
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Nobody can interfere with his decisions (on what to do and how to do his job as specialist)
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because he is THE specialist.
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Than, we’ll have a Leadership Phase of the Surgeon,
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than, when you return in your room, there will be a Leadership Phase of the Head Nurse, and so on.
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That is to say, the Third Level of Leadership is a Leadership Mode that is very focused on Micro-Skills, Micro-abilities (Leadership of the Specialist, Level 3 of the Exa-Leadership Model)…
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…you have a Micro-Skill, you can do some things better than others
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and you become the Leader, a Situational Leader, let’s call it this way.
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4th Level.
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Always referring to the HPM Model of Leadership
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… it is a “Leadership of the Big Picture” (the capacity to see the big picture)
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which is based on Macro-Skills (Level 4 of the Exa-Leadership Model)
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What I am saying, is that it could be the case of a CEO,
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who is not necessarily the best or most skilled of the company in the field of Marketing,
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he is also not the best in Administration, or as Buyer, and in Logistics,
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but he can coordinate all these Corporate Areas.
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He must have a good knowledge of the various organizational areas,
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without pretending to be the best in all of them.
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So he has the ability to “cover” several areas and to “supervise” them.
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This (Level 4 in the Exa-Leadership Model) is another and different Leadership modality, the capacity to “supervise” processes (Supervisory Leadership).
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For coaching and counseling, this is very interesting, since a coach and a counselor can really be “supervisors” of client’s processes,
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processes that the person can deal and bring ahead also together with other professionals,
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on example, lawyers, supposing that in a marital separation there might be the need of a specific legal skills in some stages of the process….
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… or processes that the person brings ahead with medical doctors, with other professional roles,
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always keeping in mind that someone has to maintain a “helicopter view” of the whole process that the person is trying to carry out
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And now, the 5th. The Fifth modality of looking at leadership is the Leadership of Project Management, the “Leadership of Projectuality”
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What does it mean to be “Leader in Projectuality”?
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It means to be that person that is able to transform an idea into a “To Do List”
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the list of things that have do be done
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So, a person that transforms a dream
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into a project and into a “To Do List”
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defining “Who” “Does What” and “When”
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There are people that are extremely able in intervening inside an idea or a project
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they might not bring any real creativity, but are able to set times, methods, procedures
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and in assigning tasks, delegation and responsibilities
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This is a Projectuality Leadership (5th Level in the Exa Leadership Model)
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This applies to any field. On example in a kitchen, a Project Leadership becomes the ability to know what ingredients are needed and when to use them
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and very likely the dish or recipe might have been decided by others. Project leadership has nothing to do with “generating” ideas but in getting things done
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Than we have the Sixth and higher Level of Leadership (Level 6 in the Exa-Leadership Model): “Spiritual Leadership”
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I can cite as examples Gandhi, Buddha,
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I could quote any person that someone can consider to be a “Charismatic Leader” for the value that he/she expresses
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for the “Values” and not for his/her physical power or physical strength,
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and not for a capacity in Project Management, but for the Values.
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So, Spiritual Leaders are those in which we recognize values
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we recognize ourselves in those values, we nourish ourselves with those values
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those values inspire us in improving us
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they inspire us in growing again, in changing the world, or in leaving a better human race behind us
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This is a Spiritual Leadership
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and now you imagine
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That these 6 Leadership Levels
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can be singularly present
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on example, in having a Leader that has one specific strong trait among 6 highlighted (and might be weak on others)
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and with that single strong trait, he will be able to do great things
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or a Leader that has 2 strong traits, or 3 strong traits, or even more, up to 6
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so we have a view of Leadership Styles based on the analysis of which typical “strong trait” a leader is using (within the Exa-Leadership Model)
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so, if we look at Leader (among political Leaders) as Putin
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you will see a Primal Leadership in action, a “bodily leadership”
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expressed in the “walking style”, in the way to stare or look at the counterparts in the eyes, an almost “challenging mode”
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a “Leadership of the Fighter” (ps. Putin is also a Judo Black Belt and his Martial past and history made an imprinting into his bodily style)
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than. you will see in him also other Leadership levels in action, but this is a very typical case of Primal Leadership Style
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If we went to analyze e.g. Gandhi, we could not talk about a form of Primal Leadership (Level 1), but instead of a Spiritual Leadership (Level 6)
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If we observe a Master in Martial Arts,
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we will very often see a leader in the Macro Skills (level 4) that are needed
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and hopefully also in the Projectuality (Level 5), in the Skills that are needed to be able to take an athlete
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and make him improve along the areas in which he has gaps and needs to improve
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Clearly, however, if in a (Martial Arts) Gym happens that
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the Master adopts a Self Perception of Primal Leader
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that will mean that the Master will beat everybody in the Gym
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he will attempt to show his power and his territory by “kicking everybody’s ass”
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as the Alpha Monkey does within a tribe of Monkeys, where he – each now and then – attacks those who pass too close,
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just to show that he is the Alpha Male and Leader of the Tribe
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In another (Martial Arts) Gym, we could instead have someone who uses a Spiritual Leadership (level 6)
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conducted by means of meditation session, reflective activities,
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acting as Counselor and as Coach in helping his students
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very probably without any need to demonstrate his skills
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and even having much lower bodily skills of his students, it does not matter since his Leadership is on the Spiritual Side, not on the Body Side, he is the “Spiritual Glue” of his group
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So leadership has a lot to do with the ability to let a group become what that grup might become
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or in helping a person in growing, achieving his/her Personal Development and improve him/herself
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and this is the really most profound meaning of Leadership
Neuroscience research tells us that our brain is like a muscle. The parts that are more often used do enlarge, get fitter, and become more agile and fast. The parts that are underused become smaller, slower, as if they were mummified.
The stimuli that change our brain can be those that come from any day, any hour of the day, any moment in life. Scientific studies that show how plastic the brain is, responding quickly and changing its structure in response to both real-life stimuli and artificial stimuli (magnetic stimulation)[1].
So what should we do? Human brain has a Left Prefrontal Cortex that has the ability to perceive positive things in our world and in what surrounds us (positive perception) and a Right Prefrontal Cortex that is very good at detecting what is wrong, negative, and the ability of feeling pessimistic emotions. The continuous flow of anxiogenic news, movies, messages, the continuous subliminal message to “become rich and famous or you are a loser” are lies that pump your right cortex and kill you. We must stay away from these messages, as if they were toxic, radioactive, and poisonous.
Even talking about negative topics and bad news during a dinner can pump your “negative” side of the brain while a dinner or eating should be a pleasure and a restful pause.
But besides specific moments, your whole life is constellated by messages, ads, movies, and people that are lying to you.
The very fact of telling you that money and status will decide whether you made it or not, is a lie that trains your right prefrontal cortex every minute of every day. You become extremely good at feeling what you have not yet done.
You start to believe that people that are on tv or became famous or very rich “have made it” without realizing that their inner experience of life can be miserable, most of them are severely depressed and unhappy people.
We could make a huge list of rich and famous people (artists, movie stars, entrepreneurs) who killed themselves or died from self-intoxication from drugs and alcohol, at the peak of their career and money possession.
Michael Jackson in music, Marilyn Monroe among actresses, the cyclist champion Marco Pantani, the member of the richest Italian family Edoardo Agnelli (Fiat) who, despite the richness and enormity of opportunities, suffered from depression and jumped from a highway. Should we judge these unlucky people “arrived”? “Arrived” where? Who has the arrogance decide for you and to tell you what makes you “arrived”?
The more you think about bad news and consider the wrong part of existence, the more you train to suffer.
You also become insensitive towards the little good things that you did or happened in your day, even the most subtle positive things. You need more and more results to feel happy, more and more money to feel rich, and at the end you always you feel that “something is still missing to be really happy”
This system can make you anxious and feel always inadequate, always out-of-place in your world, always poor. A system designed to make you feel a loser is sick, is a lie.
If you look at the lives of the richest people in terms of money, so many of them are so depressed and so many of them do suicide and are into drugs, that you should wonder if they really “made it”. Made it to get insane and unhealthy and miserable? Yes, they made it. But when it is the turn to see if they made it in being good people, good fathers or mothers, people with a sense of love for life, a strong spiritual life, an inner and self-sustaining force inside, they “didn’t make it” at all. They are miserable inside.
When you lose sight of the miracles that life provides to a living soul, even the mere fact of being able to “think” should surprise you, and make us incredibly happy. The very fact of waking up, being alive, breathe once again, is a miracle.
Don’t spit on miracles. Live them.
[1] Zhang ZC1, Luan F2, Xie CY3, Geng DD1, Wang YY4, Ma J5. Low-frequency transcranial magnetic stimulation is beneficial for enhancing synaptic plasticity in the aging brain. Neural Regen Res. 2015 Jun;10(6):916-24.
It’s better to light a lamp, than to curse the darkness . Lao Tzu
Every day you get up. And every day you fight a battle.
Sometimes you even realize that you’re fighting, sometimes you are anesthetized and do not feel it, but the fight continues, always. Deep forces face each other within us. In the depths of our hearts, two entities, two dragons, forces or titans … no matter how you want to call, are struggling for the victory. They are the Energies and the Fears.
The first warrior is our Personal Energy, physical and mental, our determination, ability, enthusiasm, physical power and mental toughness. This side of life also comprises good, generative, positive thoughts and ideas. It is the metaphor of the Light, the Good, and Life.
The other side is the land of Fears, darkness, pain, anxiety, oppressive ideologies, and the formidable challenges that life poses us. This side comprises difficulties, negative ideas, wrong beliefs that try to grab you and push you down, or make you turn back, and slow our attempt to advance. As illusory or real these forces might be, they erode our instinct towards self-expression in life and inhibit our hunger for freedom.
In fairy tales and myths, this struggle is represented as the metaphor of the Hero’s Journey, where life becomes a series of tests that the Hero must take to assert himself in the world.
And we, tiny creatures among millions of stars in the universe, immersed in this fight, what can we do? Well, let me say: a lot! We could first install a mental radar that goes in search of the negative ideas that circulate in our minds. Negative beliefs, once exposed, identified become enemies. And you can finally fight.
Intelligence is useful for survival if we can extinguish a bad idea before the bad idea extinguishes us
Karl Popper
Another fundamental operation is to open our minds towards the entrance of good, positive ideas, new visions, new learning, and let in fresh water from a thousand brooks. It can be a journey, a book, an enlightened person to listen. Any source of learning moves our energy-balance towards the side of light and weakens the darkness.
The mind that opens to a new idea never returns to the previous dimension.
Albert Einstein
Each person accepts or not the challenges that life poses, based on the “internal state” the he/she is living, the state of physical and mental power and energy, and this is related to how our “inner balance”, works, and the accuracy of our mental radar.
Our mind weighs perceived energies and perceived fears, then decides.
Who is able to do mental cleansing and re-charge his/her energy, becomes powerful beyond measure, up to the point of actively seeking challenging projects. An energetic person will seek challenges in which to apply the energies that feels, the resources that he/she possesses.
This applies to athletes, martial artists, fighters in life, even to a couple who decides to give birth to children in this rotten world, knowing that eventually the light will prevail or at least that this possibility exists.
The challenges always teach.
Those that we accept but also those who do not accept.
Fears are growing in us. Some are motivated and useful to save our lives. Driving without paying attention to the road needs to become something that we fear, and it must be something that generates awareness of the danger. This is not a pathological fear, but fear to drive – the pure fear of driving, is a debilitating fear, something to get rid of.
When you are ready to die you will be ready to live.
Sitting Bull (1831 – 1890), tribal chief of the Hunkpapa Sioux (Lakota).
Those who live within completely unmotivated fears, carry exhausting rocks in their backpack. Misconceptions, wrong fears, become unnecessary weight to be disposed of as soon as possible. The fear to try a different career, fear of failure in a project, the fear of public speaking, fear of trying new roads.
As in a fairy tale, epic confrontation between these two forces never ends, within us and outside us.
We must look for some positive challenges. It becomes a positive challenge to remove the suffering to every child on the planet.
It becomes a challenge to remove from ourselves the fears of which we can do without, and learn to live fully.
Living fully means to decide what deserves to be a part of our lives and what does not. Do not let it decide to the mass, to others, to a TV program, or ignorance.
It is necessary to do this cleaning every day. It ‘a daily exercise of mental autonomy, freedom at the liquid state. A fighter does not remain standing waiting to be struck without reacting, he/she will use every technique, every energy, every tactic, to win the match. This is also true in life.
So we will fight every day this struggle for freedom.
Un video nel quale osservare gli occhi di una campionessa mentre si allena, il suo impegno, la sua dedizione, il suo ascolto attento che fanno di lei una Persona ancora prima che una atleta.
E qui, un video per vedere come il mondo sta andando avanti mentre la zona Euro sta ferma e soffoca, grazie alla nostra splendida moneta che sta uccidendo l’economia. Questo è il resto del mondo per chi vuole vederlo
Redazione a cura di Medialab Research
Contatti con il Direttore e Curatore, dott. Daniele Trevisani:
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